Do you want to have amazing sex? Then there are three must-do to help you get there.

I mean, who doesn’t want amazing sex? Keep reading whether you’re a man or a woman and want to take your lovemaking to the next level.

Now, let’s be real with our expectations. You know, it can’t always be this mind-blowing experience, especially if you are in a long term relationship.

There are times where the lovemaking is just a little bit more blah.

It’s sweet, but they are no fireworks, and it’s okay. However, there are some things that you can do that can help you be more consistent in having outstanding, amazing sex.

Tip #1: Have Lasting Power

You need to have lasting power, my dear.

I know when I’m saying lasting power, maybe I’m putting the men under the spotlight by saying you need to last longer.

But it’s not just all about the men. You, too, my dear women, have a role to play in his ability to last. You see, we women tend to draw things in, while men project to the outside.

So when you make love with your partner, if you want him to cum and you start to pull on him energetically, there’s nothing he can do. He’s going to cum sooner than he wants to because you are actively pulling on him and making ejaculation happen.

So I think it’s a dance when you’re making love, it’s both you as a woman and him as a man who is responsible for the lasting power.

That means you are not just going to make this sprint from start to finish to get to this orgasmic lane because there’s no special price that you get from cumming very fast!

When you start to build up slowly and build up more and more sexual energy, you can go to higher states of pleasure. But you cannot go there unless you have lasting power. And by lasting power, I mean, at least 20 minutes. Ideally, you want to be able to last 45 minutes to an hour, because the longer you can be into this lovemaking, the higher you can go in your energy.

And those altered states of pleasure and altered dimension that you can access when you make love only happen when you have enough time to get there.

I know for me, it usually takes me about 20 minutes to get out of my head. To let go of my to-do list, what I’ve accomplished that day, and to start to be present in my body.

So if I don’t have at least 20 minutes of lovemaking, I don’t get to that place. As soon as I hit the 20 minutes mark, I’m more present. I’m more able to enjoy what is happening.

Tip #2: Develop Presence

If you want to have amazing sex, you need to be able to be present. Let me be blunt: you need to get out of your head. And you need to be present in your body.

Presence means being in the here and now. That means that you’re not fantasizing about somebody else’s, or another scenario. You are not thinking about your to-do list, either. And most importantly, you’re not trying to chase any sensation.

It’s about relaxing into what is happening. It’s about just enjoying it for what it is. And the more present you can be, the more you can start to tune in into the subtleties of the lovemaking the little things that make sex so enjoyable.

It could be how you can begin to feel tingling sensations in your hands, or how your body is opening up, how your breath is more profound. The more you breathe, the more you can feel.

The more you can stay in the present moment and enjoy this connection with your lover, meaning connecting through eye gazing, breathing together, smiling, or slowly going through the motion rather than pound super fast.

The higher you can go in your energy, the better your sex can become.

Tip #3: Feel the energy

You need to develop your ability to feel the energy. And that is beyond the physical. So yes, sex is physical, but there’s a thing called sexual energy.

When you can tune into this other component beyond the physical, the energetic realm, you can start to move this energy into your entire body.

You’re not so focused on your genitals, but you start to breathe energy in and move it into your body until your whole body becomes this orgasmic thing.

The key to feeling the energy is to focus on the things that are not so palpable, but still happening.

Imagine you are breathing sexual energy, moving it up the spine, and then letting it come down the front of the body.

When you have this concept and idea that sex is not just physical. It suddenly has so much more to it.

Tuning into that energetic component will help you have fantastic sex.

So if you apply these three things, the ability to have lasting power. This means not just going for the first orgasm, taking your time, and building up your pleasure. Increase your ability to feel the energy and be present in the moment.

You will take your good sex to new realms and experience mind-blowing, out of this world intimacy.