Do you or your partner have a vulva? Perfect!
Because we’re about to turn your entire world sideways… or,
the very least, your body!
Confused? It’ll all make sense in just a few seconds…
What is the Kivin Method?
In the simplest of answers, the Kivin method is when a
person gives someone with a vulva cunnilingus,
So, while you or your partner may absolutely love getting
eaten out as you know how… straight between the
legs, the Kivin method is a new way to experience
cunnilingus. And it’s arguably a whole lot better than what
you’re used to!
The inventor of this cunnilingus method is unknown, which is
a shame, as quite honestly, they deserve a drink or a box of
chocolates, but either way… you’ll be thanking us later for
How to Do the Kivin Method
To practice this new saucy position, the one giving
oral sex will position their body perpendicular
to their partner, not parallel.
A bonus? This gives the giver easy access to the perineum,
the sensitive spot between the vulva and the anus.
Why is that a good thing? The perineum is loaded with nerve
endings which means that it’s a hotspot for all kinds of
To make things a little simpler, here’s a step-by-step guide
on how to do the Kivin method:
Step 1: the
vulva owner receiving oral should be on their back with
one of their legs lifted.
Step 2: The
one giving oral positions themselves under the lifted
leg sideways in such a way that their mouth is facing
Step 3: The
giver applies constant desired pressure to the perineum
with one or two fingers while sliding the tongue up and
down the vulva.
The Benefits of Practicing the Kivin Method
What makes this method stand out from your usual oral
sex routine? Well, there are 4
you’d benefit from trying it…
mentioned, the perineum is easily accessible. This area is
often overlooked during foreplay, and when added into your
bedtime antics, can create even stronger
someone is in this position, they have uninterrupted access
to their partner’s beautiful vulva. And sure, many
immediately think to go for the clitoris,
but when the vulva is praised in all its glory (the labia,
clitoris, and pubic mound), the receiver can experience
heightened bliss and more powerful climaxes.
some vulva owners, direct clit stimulation can
be too intense, leading to an unpleasant experience. When
you go for gold from a different angle however, you can
gently lick, play with, and massage the entire area instead
of just the clitoris.
vulva owners may have a particular side of the clitoris that
they receive the most satisfaction from. The fun part is
discovering which side that is, or you could simply ask them
beforehand to ensure pleasure.
Tips for Turning the Kivin Method into an Orgasmic
The most important thing to note is that no two people are
the same, and everyone experiences pleasure in a different
way. Having said that, the Kivin method is not a sure bet to
orgasm town, but it definitely does have a high success
Other ways to enhance the experience could be:
Praise the vulva: self-esteem,
body confidence, and pre-existing beliefs could mean
that the receiver feels nervous, anxious, or
apprehensive about sexual intimacy. Words of affirmation
during oral sex and other sexual activity is a great way
to possibly relieve any anxieties. Example: “I
just love the way you taste!”.
are a few things you can bring into your play time to
make it even better. Some items include:
A pillow or wedge: this
can prop up the receiver and make them more comfortable.
This will also take some of the weight from the giver
off of the receiver’s leg.
Sex toys: a
clit stimulation toy or even a magic wand is a wonderful
addition. The SONA
2 Cruise, for
example, targets the clitoris sensually using SenSonic
Technology to create gentle waves, pleasuring the
clitoris without even making contact. The Smart
Wand 2 is
another winner, as you could use this to caress the
body, including the perineum. Or you could add in a butt
plug, if that’s something your partner fancies.
is better, and you can lessen friction with your favourite lube.
Additionally, if your partner feels self-conscious about
how they taste, you could opt for flavoured lube. What’s
also a plus is if the giver uses an aloe vera-based
lube. It can reduce the chance of having a dry mouth as
it encourages the production of saliva.
In short, the Kivin method is something that should be on
every vulva-owner or vulva-lover’s sex bucket list! And
don’t worry, it’s really not as hard as it sounds, just give
it a go!
Still not sold? Some of the folks over at Reddit have
attested to this magical little oral sex method:
“Definitely everyone’s different, however as a woman I can
totally attest to this method! Up and down is actually
sometimes a little painful for me as I’m very sensitive,
side to side feels amazing!” aant85
“Doing it from the side makes SO much sense, for both
parties. For me, it feels way better when my husband turns
his head sideways instead of going up and down. It more
accurately mimics the movement I would make with my hand if
I were masturbating. And I imagine it’s a lot easier on his
tongue. Also, any time I’ve been eaten out by a guy with
facial hair, it always gets really painful and distracting
for me. This would solve that too.” anonymous
“Thanks for this tip. I have never ever come from oral
before. My husband and I just tried this and it has led to
one of our most mind-blowing sessions yet.” ladyhaly
“The Kivin Method is hands down a winner.” vanzir
…A winner, indeed, vanzir, a winner indeed!