How Can Men Last Longer in Bed?

They say life is about the journey, not the destination. The very same could be said for sex; making love involves much more than intercourse alone, and for many of us, it’s the intimacy, tenderness and exquisite anticipation enjoyed before penetration where much of sex’s inherent pleasure lies.

Delaying that final release – in this case, ejaculation – is a really common craving of men everywhere, who, for various reasons, want the penetrative part of sex to last longer.

In a heterosexual relationship, a key motivator comes down to some pretty unavoidable differences between men and women’s physiology. In what seems like a massive oversight of creation – or else a pretty cruel trick – women take around four times as long to reach orgasm through intercourse as their male partners.

Mind the Gap

Statistics suggest that on average, men enjoy around 3 minutes of penetrative sex before orgasm. Women, on the other hand, take anywhere between 10 to 20 minutes to climax.

Taking into consideration guys’ refectory period – that post-ejaculation interlude before he can get hard again – and the potential for exasperation becomes frustratingly clear.

Worrying about not going the distance has been piling pressure onto men folk for a long time. It goes without saying that we all want our partners to share our pleasure and climaxes. But here’s the thing: having a penis doesn’t automatically shift the responsibility of both his and her orgasm guy-side.

Shaking that clearly flawed – albeit frustratingly widespread – assumption is the first step to enjoying the leisurely route to pleasure, as opposed to some high-speed bullet train. Yep, there they are again: journeys and destinations.

Start, Stop, then Start Again

Retraining physical responses with a partner takes practice. Initially, that means some one-on-one time between him and his manhood. By and large, masturbation is a hasty affair, with just one quick and clear goal: release. With this in mind, is it any wonder that when it comes to being intimate with another person, events can prove equally, ahem, efficient?

That’s where the start/ stop method (AKA ‘edging’) comes in. Self explanatory enough, it involves applying the breaks right before ejaculation, then waiting 15 seconds before starting up again.

A solo exercise, the thinking goes it helps guys to develop an awareness of their body’s signals and responses. Bring that new-found self-knowledge into the bedroom, slow down, and savor the moment.

Get Technical

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On its own, that sounds pretty good doesn’t it? Well, with Sextech, you’ll be able to experience incredible pleasures as well as learn specific data about your sexual performance. You see, Sextech items like the LELO F1s will be able to track your performance, and provide even more detailed feedback, that you can then use to train your sexual responses to reach your peak sexual abilities.

Work Those Kegels

Pelvic exercises, those repeated flexing of pelvic floor muscles to develop control and sensation, aren’t just for the ladies – men can do Kegel exercises too. No gym membership required, the honing of this key group promises guys all kinds of benefits, from tackling urinary incontinence through to, you guessed it, better command of his manhood during sex.

Gents: to pinpoint the precise network of muscles in question, try stopping urinating mid-flow. Feel it? Those, my friend, can help delay orgasm. Once you’ve located them, they can be exercised anywhere by contracting for a slow count of five, then releasing, also for a slow count of five. Repeat ten times – that could be in the office, behind the wheel, wherever – gradually increasing duration over time.

When climax feels dangerously close, give those PC muscles a flex for a momentary delay and hopefully, some added composure…

Find Time for Foreplay

For many men, the most common motivation behind wanting to last longer between the sheets is their partner’s orgasm. Whilst certainly admirable, to put matters into perspective only an estimated 30% of women climax through penetration alone. In short, you’ve got to keep your foreplay game tight, son.

We’re talking about teasing, and clitoral stimulation – be it by tongue, finger or external sex toy – will likely bring her closer to the brink than just intercourse.

And, when the inevitable happens and neither party can hold out for even a moment longer, the act of penetration becomes the lusty cherry atop the most delicious of cakes that’s most definitely best enjoyed together. Yum!

The Big Squeeze

Advanced training for longevity in bed is all well and good, but what of practical measures during the act itself?

Well, men can temporarily delay their climaxes by applying pressure to the base of the penis. The briefly-restricted blood flow has a desensitizing effect, allowing him to bring things down a notch and prolong the pleasure.

Granted, it doesn’t sound terribly sexy, but it can be – honest! That could be an intimate signal or code word between partners to request a gentle squeeze; or else cock rings are specifically designed to offer interim pressure for pleasure…

Mixing Things Up to Slow Things Down

A seemingly one-way track to ejaculation can be slowed by simply shifting positions.

If it’s missionary that gets your mojo going, a mid-romp switch to doggy-style can work wonders. Similarly, certain arrangements stimulate the penis more than others. As with most matters related to intimacy, this one’s pretty personal so our best advice is to practice, practice, practice! Likewise, varying the depth and rhythm of thrusts can be just the tonic for penetration that goes the distance.

A Problem Shared…

Above all, and as with most things in life, when it comes to addressing longevity between the sheets, communication between partners is essential.

Maintaining erections generally not being something guys gossip about, you know, over a couple of pints down the pub, some men feel disproportionately anxious about bringing their partner to orgasm. That in itself can have all kinds of negative implications on mental health, relationships – everything. But, guaranteed: addressing these issues with your significant other won’t just help in finding a solution; it could also pave the way to a whole new journey of pleasure, together.

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Kegel Exercises for Men

Listen up, gentlemen: what if we told you there was a workout routine that could vastly improve not only your health, but your sexual performance? And what if we told you that it would take mere minutes of your time — anytime, anywhere — leaving no room for excuses?

Does it sound like a too-good-to-be-true infomercial-like pitch is coming? Don’t worry – the only thing on its way is the top eight questions guys have about Kegels—one of the best-kept secrets of a man’s sexual health.

So what is a Kegel?

‘Who is a Kegel?’ Would perhaps be the more appropriate question.

Arnold Kegel was an Iowa gynecologist and inventor of the Kegel perineometer, an instrument that measures the contraction strength of pelvic floor muscles.

During his research in the 1940s, he also figured out how to exercise the pelvic floor, the muscle set which is now his namesake. As to whether or not he bestowed his name upon them himself or it was done by some immature colleagues is lost to the ages.

How will Kegels benefit me?

Like massaging your prostate, doing your Kegels provide an alluring trifecta of health, pleasure and psychological advantages.

Among the benefits are: relief from urinary incontinence – or more plainly put – post-urination dribbling, and improvement of blood flow through the penis, which goes a long way in combating erectile dysfunction.

Finally, having strong, manly Kegels will increase your sexual stamina with stronger, longer-lasting erections and more intense orgasms.

If you still need more convincing when it comes to male Kegels after that last sentence, then you’re in luck – because there’s more!

What equipment will I need to do Kegels?

None.

However, before you begin you need to locate your PC muscles. When you cut off your stream during urination—the muscle contracting to prevent further urine flow is your PC muscle.

The true beauty of Kegels is that they can be done anytime, anywhere—on the couch, at your desk, in the car, even while you’re reading this right now.

So what’s my workout routine?

To prove the aforementioned, let’s practice now. Relax your body and contract, or squeeze, your PC muscles, simulating the effort made to stop urination.

Hold the contraction for five seconds, and then release and relax for five seconds. As a routine, repeat this motion 15 times, three times a day—morning, noon and evening.

Are there ways to enhance this workout?

Just like a weightlifting routine, you should start small and build your way up as your muscles become stronger.

Where in weightlifting, you’d increase weight over time, with Kegels you can increase wait over time—holding the PC contraction at longer intervals, 10 or even 20 seconds a rep.

What if it feels awkward at first?

Operative words: at first. Any new lifestyle habit takes some getting used to. Be optimistic and take this as a good sign that you’re working muscles that you’ve never worked, or even knew existed.

While doing your Kegels, be sure to flex just your PC muscles, not your abs, thighs or butt. Contracting other muscles can lessen the affect of each Kegel.

Any other suggestions?

This one’s a little out of left field, but hey, in order to keep things healthy down there we have a ‘use it or lose it’ mentality. Want to keep your pleasure equipment functioning properly? Then give yourself pleasure!

Of course there’s the tried and true method of using your hand to masturbate but [Morpheus moment] what if i told you that the most intense pleasures come from a machine?

You’ll thank me for this later — but hands down the most intense penile pleasure that money can buy exists, and it is the cutting edge of pleasure technology. Introducing the LELO F1s, a masturbation sleeve that works like no other pocket pussy has before. Rather than simply thrusting in and out of it, it delivers sonic pulses that penetrate deep within your penile tissue for intensely resonant sensations.

Oh what’s that — you want more? Well the ten sensors located throughout that can be programmed to track your performance, record data, or even trigger actions based on your arousal state. Sex tech is on a whole ‘nother level and we are here for it.

How long until I see results?

We were waiting for this one. Like any real workout routine, results come with time and commitment. Every human body responds differently to Kegels, but you should typically see results in three to six weeks if you stay up on your routine.

In the early days and weeks, don’t get overanxious looking for results, they will come in time.

As far as we’re concerned, Kegels are the best kept secret when it comes to male sexual health and wellness practices that are as effective as they are easy.

Whether you’re experiencing symptoms of urine incontinence or premature ejaculation, looking to increase your bedroom prowess or all of these, the only remaining question you should have now is Why not?